When my husband and I were dating, I had a memorable conversation with someone about the importance of physical attraction in a relationship. Of course I exclaimed that attraction was really important and that it may be one of the first things that draws us to our spouse (and that doesn’t mean you’re superficial)! BUT, I continued to say that our commitment to to each other and, even more, our love shown through selflessness is what we saw as most important. She said it sounded a bit “unromantic”, but I said, “To me, there couldn’t be anything more romantic than that!” (And this is coming from an Austen-love-story-butterflies-are-for-real aficionado).
Because, in a lifetime, we could encounter sickness and health, wealth and poverty, the best and the worst requiring more than happiness or attraction to keep us together.
That it is good for us to be together because we trust in God’s perfect and good plans for our lives.
That it is about covenant not convenience.
If you were to ask my husband and me what our favorite books on marriage are, we would readily give three:
1. This Momentary Marriage by John Piper.
2. The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller
3. The Bible
I’m sure in the course of our marriage we will refer to many other books and resources to strengthen our communication and relationship, but these three could be deemed “Required Reading” for the single, engaged, and married.
Happy Valentine’s! xo